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Bereavement

Everyone grieves at their own pace and in their own way

 

Grieving is normal – no-one should ever feel ashamed

 

A child or young person’s behaviour is often their way of communicating how they are feeling

 

Allow a child or young person to seek support from whoever they feel comfortable with; teacher, friend, family, youth worker. Although, they may not want to speak about it to a member of the family, for fear of upsetting them further.

 

Every emotion is valid. A bereaved child or young person may feel sadness, worry, jealousy, despair, fear, anger and many other emotions. Relief that the person is no longer in pain. Joy that they got to have that person in their life.

 

A child or young person may experience physical symptoms including exhaustion, nausea, lowered immunity, change in weight, aches and pains, insomnia

 

If you are worried, seek help from a professional

Useful Websites

Child Bereavement UK

Child Bereavement UK helps families to rebuild their lives when a child grieves or when a child dies. We support children and young people (up to the age of 25) when someone important to them has died or is not expected to live, and parents and the wider family when a baby or child of any age dies or is dying. 

Tel: 0800 02 888 40

Email: helpline@childbereavementuk.org

Live Chat is also available via the website
 

Winston’s Wish

Winston’s Wish is the UK’s childhood bereavement charity. It supports children and their families after the death of a parent or a sibling.

Tel: 08088 020 021

Email: ask@winstonswish.org

Marie Curie

Marie Curie is the UK’s leading end of life charity. They provide frontline nursing and hospice care, a free support line and a wealth of information and support on all aspects of dying, death and bereavement.

The link above is specifically about support for grieving children

Tel: 0800 090 2309

Live Chat is also available via the website

Cruse Bereavement Care - South East Surrey

All our volunteers are specifically trained in working with children aged 5+ and young people, and can see the young person in their home or at school. We are able to work on a one-to-one basis, with siblings or the whole family as appropriate (usually with a different volunteer for each member of the family) and we will work for as long as it is considered necessary. 

Tel: 01737 772834 

Email: surrey.east@cruse.org.uk

Jigsaw4U (South East)

Jigsaw supports bereaved children of all ages, young people and their families and those affected by a family member having a terminal diagnosis throughout Surrey, Sussex and surrounding areas. 

  • Grief support 

  • Preparing for loss 

Make an Online Self referral here

Helpline: 01342 313895 (9am-12pm Mon-Fri) 

Email: info@jigsawsoutheast.org.uk

Childhood Bereavement Network

The Childhood Bereavement Network (CBN) is a specialist membership organisation, working together to support bereaved children and young people. 

Click on the link above to find support in your area.

Recommended Reading

There are a huge amount of publications aimed at children, parents and siblings. The ones most widely used by Learning Space with children and young adults are:

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For Younger Children

 

The invisible string

by Patrice Karst

ISBN: 978-0316486231

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For Everyone

Seeds of Hope Bereavement and Loss Activity Book

by Caroline Jay

ISBN: 9781849055468

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For Teenagers

 

Still Here with Me: Teenagers and Children on Losing a Parent

by Suzanne Sjöqvist

ISBN: 9781843105015

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For Teenagers

 

 

Sad Book

By Michael Rosen

ISBN: 9781843108153

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For Younger Children

 

Sad Isn't Bad

 

By Michaelene Mundy

ISBN: 9780870293214

Support ideas

Create a Memory box

A memory box is a container that holds special things belonging to you. It might include photos, some favourite music, letters, or a recorded message. These objects and messages can help remind your children or loved ones of happy times you spent together and offer them some comfort. It can be a useful way to pass on memories and could be made with any loved one in mind, not just your children.  

Planting Trees or Flowers

It is a warm and moving way of keeping a lost loved one's memory alive and creates a tranquil place to visit and treasure the happy memories. 

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